Where Does All the Time Go!?

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We’ve been full time RVing in a mobile home for 4 months and we have barely had any time to keep up with our blogs. It’s amazing what can eat up your time in a day. Currently, we don’t have jobs that are sustaining us on the road, but I suppose if we did, then we wouldn’t travel place to place as much, but since we don’t know how long we could be traveling for, we like to see as much as we can before it all ends.

What takes up our whole day? Since being in a bit warmer weather, it’s been easier to get up in the morning. The blankets aren’t keeping us under the covers for so long. But since daylights savings, we have less daylight, so we try to make the most out of our day.

We generally eat in for most meals unless we are in certain cities, so cooking can take up a lot of time. We try to make big pots of soup, but they never last long enough. Our fridge is only so big so we can’t really prep a lot. We generally eat very simple, meat and veggies. non processed foods, except for the occasional chips or tortillas for tacos. Vinny loves his tacos. It’s usually taco everything or put an egg on anything for breakfast (dinner leftovers & ect). Since we eat in most of the time and we have little cupboard and fridge space, we have to get grocers pretty often. Cleaning after meals can take a lot of time, if we are on the move. We have such a small space that we are always shuffling things around and we have to clean up before we make the next move, even if it’s just a short drive.

On top of cleaning, every 3-5 days, we have to dump our black and grey tanks and fill up on water and do random maintenance. The other day we spent a whole day in a small town getting an oil change, filter change, tire rotation because it’s hard to find very many places that will do those things for a RV, surprisingly. We’ve been in a few cities where they are booked out for weeks or an month ahead of time and since we don’t stay anywhere for that long, we can’t get our oil changed.

We may stay somewhere for a week or a day, so that requires planning ahead of time. We can spend so much time researching our next destination, so that eats up some time. Where will we stay next and the most affordable place that we could find on the road. Since plans can change at anytime, we have to be ready for the next place. Today we thought we found a place to stay for the night, so we drove a couple of hours to get there. The last mile, we were on a rough gravel road going about 5mph and saw signs that said ‘Day Use Only’. That’s not what the Allstays app said. We drove for a while longer thinking that maybe it was down the road some more. We checked out the Freecamping.net site and found a comment saying that camp spot didn’t exist anymore. We noticed that the signs looked pretty fresh and that it was some electrical company. Seems like the land got sold. So that changed our plan significantly because there weren’t many options for camping in that area. And then the next spot, the GPS was giving the wrong direction…

Our daily activities can take up quite a bit of time. We might end up at a rock climbing destination. Heck, looking for a climbing route can take a long time, especially when we have limited options (still building up our outdoor climbing skill levels) and using mountain project, an app for finding climbing routes. We would buy books for every climbing destination, but that would be spendy. If we aren’t climbing, we might be biking or hiking and depending on the hike, that could take up the whole day. We also spend our days taking photographs, so of course we have to spend a lot of time editing the photos. Then trying to keep up with social media is another thing.

Driving the RV slows us up. When google says 2 hours, it takes us more like 3 hours.

[Laundry, reading, eating, finding a good spot to park a large vehicle when running errands, stopping because you find something interesting on the road, lounging in the morning, researching because we are always in a new community (groceries, things to do, where to get an oil change, propane or gas…, meeting people on the road, taking the dog on walks, keeping up with reading], making things from scratch. When you need internet/phone service, staring at your phone until you can get service to search for info. Making time to keep in touch with your friends and family, kinda hard without service. Sometimes trying to make a perfect blog post can take time, so today for the sake of time. No edits, just get it published. That’s okay, right? Clearly, we haven’t traveled long enough to have a good system going between the both of us.

Connection, community and nomadic relationships

_MG_4121.jpgReconnecting with friends and family is one of the true joys of nomadic living. We have just been so blessed with wonderful hospitality, support, conversation, care, interest and love from friends and family. We are feeling so thankful for all the wonderful people we know and all those we have met along the way. Its so encouraging to experience such a sense of community in all these places we have never been.

Community has been an idea I have focused on since very early in my adult years. August of 2001, at the age of 21, I moved back to my hometown to create a space that teens could go to. A space to connect to a community of their peers and receive support and build relationships with caring adults. Leaving that position in August of 2017, was one of the hardest things I have had to do in my life. It was my life. Stepping away has given me a profound feeling of how much of a part of my life that place was.  Revelations are revelations for a reason.

I feel its a lot easier to connect with others when you live in a smaller community. Familiar faces and places are a big part of this. Running into someone you know at the grocery store, or 10 people you know is great. Unless you’re in a hurry.

One of the challenges for me of small town life is finding pockets of people that are into similar specific hobbies or interests. There are less people doing certain activities or sharing similar interests.  From my experience, small town life does force you to dig a little deeper to find commonalities and broadens your immediate interests and activities sometimes to connect with people. For example, I went to many events I wasn’t particularly interested in cause I knew friends would be there or to possibly see who was there.

For me, the idea of community has always had a deeper meaning for me, beyond physical interests or other physical similarities. Activities and hobbies were always a connecting point to develop deeper relationships. I was introduced to a hobby by someone, whether I knew them or not. Our connections shape our interests and the path of our life.

Road life has really emphasized the global community.  It has reinforced and shown me even more that we are all connected.  Lives intertwining, interactions and choices, all affecting each other.  Almost every decision we make ripples through time.

In my life in Aberdeen, there were many days I wouldn’t encounter a new person.  Life on the road is completely the opposite, just about every single day I encounter at least one new person.  Interacting with many different types of humans is like viewing yourself through many different lenses.  Everyone brings new things into your life.  There are so many different perspectives and thoughts with each encounter. Experiencing a wide variety of individuals challenges my worldview and introduces me to new ideas.

I wanted to write about one of the reoccurring thoughts in regards to relationships, that coincides with the mantra of “staying in your day”. So many people come and go in life, for many different lengths of time.  Living to truly value that one moment you have with that person.  Realizing that every single person you come in contact with is a potentially amazing connection. Not saying that every person is to be trusted or that we need to be equally vulnerable with that person or have equal relationships with every person we meet, but to be present and slow down and take time. It has been super beneficial for me to try to challenge myself to learn at least one thing about that person, other than their name and where they are from. People respond well, most of the time, to real inquiries about their life. Stop, take time, listen and love. – V

Live in your day, you can live tomorrow, tomorrow.

_MG_4198Currently sitting in front of our good friends Dominic and Annie’s house in Bend, Oregon, for the second time. Our first time in Bend, France was laid up with her burn injury. Its nice to be back here with friends and with her feeling better.

October 8th will be two months since we left Aberdeen in our first home together. We both left towns we have lived in for most our lives to live in a Winnebago together after 9 months of a long distance relationship. Quite the change. No matter what life you choose, there are challenges and life lessons to be learned.

As we maneuver through each day with its uncertainties and variables I am constantly reminded to continue to stay in the moment. This mantra is so applicable in all facets of life; from cherishing every wonderful moment we are blessed with in this life, to dealing with an unpredictable stressful situation, to the change of lifestyle of not having a forced schedule. Its a ritual of self reminding to trust the day and that I don’t have to tackle tomorrows problems today. Tomorrow will take care of itself.